Context. It’s Important.

“Why can Blacks/Whites/Latinos/Native Americans/Women/Gays say <fill in the blank with racial/ethnic/sexist/homophobic/xenophobic slur> but when I say it, it’s offensive. I don’t understand the difference. Can you explain it to me?”

Can we dispense with this nonsense? First, you know the difference. What you’re doing now is called “trolling”

In Internet slang, a troll (/ˈtroʊl/, /ˈtrɒl/) is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.

– Wikipedia

Second, what is this desire you folks have to use offensive language when talking about other people? Where does that come from? Do you really feel your life is incomplete unless you’re allowed to slur other people without rebuke or comment? Are you that small?

Here’s my last explanation for those of you who may really be too stupid to understand that when you try to be “cute” with your bigotry, it doesn’t fool anyone except those in the echo chamber with you.

One of my dearest friends in the world is Kendal Larson. Occasionally (actually often), he will say something to which my response is “You’re an idiot”, we then laugh and move on with whatever illicit foolishness we are involved in at the moment. That’s a perfectly fine interaction because of our relationship. We have one.

Now, if I don’t know Kendal and my response to seeing him walking around the Whole Foods in a set of lederhosen and yellow Crocs is to say to him “You’re an idiot”, the chances are pretty good that Viking mayhem and general bloodletting will ensue. And, rightfully so. Because – no relationship. Get it?

Everyone learned the difference between those two interactions in kindergarten. Pretending you didn’t isn’t cute or an interesting debate technique. It simply makes you look like a passive-aggressive bigoted asshat.

The only question left is “Are you?” If not, stop trying to look like one. There is no courage in slurring people. None. It makes you look like the small, petty, disgusting bigot you are. If this is who you are, come out and say it. Own your ignorance. Proudly. Stand up and shout out to the world: “I’M A BIGOTED ASSHAT!” Quit hiding behind a faux-logical construct that even a child can see through.

Or grow up.